Why you should spend money on family vacations – Your Modern Family

I read a study the other day that was pretty powerful.  It just supported what I already knew… that vacations were better than gifts.   Experiences better than toys.  Why you should spend more money on family vacations became clear – it benefits the entire family.

Kids love to spend time with us, one on one time and family time.  Studies are proving it more & more often.

There is a reason that our kids long for the beach like I do… and it’s not because we love the beach.  It is because we love our time together.   They love going biking with me early in the morning.  They love building sand forts with my husband.



They want to take a walk down to the lighthouse, “just the two of us” because these things create bonds with our kids… unbreakable bonds that only come from spending time together.

My husband and his family camped, a lot when he was a child.  He loved camping.  He loved everything about it: playing cards with his family, cooking over a campfire, exploring the area.

My family went to the beach a few times a year.  I love the beach.  I love riding bikes, looking out onto the water, running on the beach (even though I loathe running), finding shells with our kids, finding a seashell that we can bring home to save as a reminder.

It doesn’t matter where you are going as long as you make it a fun, memorable experience.  You can do that by being involved with your kids.  Finding fun things to do, new exciting things to show them and creating a bond that will last a lifetime.   Be present in the moment.

“Family holidays are valued by children, both in the moment and for long afterward in their memory,” psychologist and best-selling author Oliver James explained to The Telegraph. “It’s all about talking nonsense with your parents, sharing an ice cream and moments of time in which your interests are genuinely taken into account. So if you’re going to spend money on something, it’s pretty clear which option makes more sense.”

And get this: Traveling with your kids can also be beneficial to their brain development. “An enriched environment offers new experiences that are strong in combined social, physical, cognitive, and sensory interaction,” says child psychotherapist Dr. Margot Sunderland. “Think: family together in the pool, walking together through the forest, touching long tall grasses waving in the wind, toasting marshmallows on campfire, hanging out together under warm sun, feeling sand between the toes.

Research, of course, repeatedly indicates that, despite the fact that we go on buying more stuff, adults really regard experiences like travel as far more fulfilling. Children, says James, are no different. It’s just that they value different aspects of that travel. ~telegraph.co.uk

He goes onto say: “Dad or Mum, building sandcastles, playing badminton on the beach, jumping over waves. It seems like fun, but it’s also “attachment play”, and it’s vital for bonding. Attachment play also enhances self-esteem, sending a child the psychological message: “You have my full attention. I delight in you. I delight in being with you.”

You know, the toys that we give them are exciting and fun… the video games keep them busy.  New movies will occupy their time, your you child will never remember their favorite day of TV.

During this one week challenge, I will send you one e-mail a day, with your daily challenge.  The goal is to build the bond between you and your child… to build a home that our children will want to come home to.

You are also welcome to download & print my 1-0n-1 time calendar and free “One on One Time course”   I will e-mail everything to you right away.   Click here to get started. 

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Ocasio-Cortez Hit With FEC Complaint Alleging She Laundered Money To Boyfriend | Daily Wire

The Coolidge Reagan Foundation filed a complaint with the Federal Election Commission (FEC) on Wednesday alleging that socialist Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (D-NY) may have illegally funneled money to her boyfriend through an allied PAC.

Fox News reports that the group alleges “in their complaint that when the Brand New Congress PAC (BNC) — a political arm of Brand New Congress LLC, a company that was hired by Ocasio-Cortez, D-N.Y., to run and support her campaign — paid Roberts for marketing services, it potentially ran afoul of campaign finance law.”

The complaint highlighted a report from earlier in February by Luke Thompson, who “published an article entitled ‘The Congresswoman Loves the Swamp. Her Wealthy Chief of Staff Used a PAC to Pay Her Boyfriend,’ on Medium, which parses FEC records to reveal evidence Ocasio-Cortez funneled money from her official campaign account to her boyfriend, Riley Roberts.”

The complaint added: “The timing and amounts of these transactions, the use of two affiliated entities as intermediaries, the vague and amorphous nature of the services Riley ostensibly provided, the magnitude of these transactions compared to both the limited funds the campaign had raised at the time and the total amount of its expenditures, and the romantic relationship between Ocasio-Cortez and Riley collectively establish reason to believe these transactions may have violated campaign finance law.”

The Coolidge Reagan Foundation noted in the complaint the following two campaign finance laws they believe are pertinent to the allegations:

52 U.S.C. § 30114(b)(1) provides campaign contributions “shall not be converted by any person to personal use.”

52 U.S.C. § 30104(b)(6) provides an authorized committee must report “the name and address of each person who has received any disbursement not disclosed” as an expenditure, if it totals more than $200 within an election cycle.

In reference to 52 U.S.C. § 30114(b)(1), the complaint stated:

Ocasio-Cortez converted official funds raised through contributions to her candidate committee to personal use by transferring a total of $6,191.32 from her campaign committee to Brand New Congress PAC in late August and September 2017, which contemporaneously had its affiliated LLC pay $6,000 to her boyfriend, Riley. On information and belief, the amount paid to Riley was either not provided as consideration for bona fide services or exceeded the fair market value of any legitimate servicesRiley provided. On information and belief, the true intent of the payment to Riley was to provide personal benefit to a boyfriend, rather than defray bona fide campaign expenses.

In reference to 52 U.S.C. § 30104(b)(6), the complaint stated:

In an attempt to mask the payment of official campaign funds to her boyfriend, Ocasio-Cortez instead laundered them through intermediaries Brand New Congress PAC and Brand New Congress LLC. Ocasio-Cortez incorrectly reported a payment of $6,191.32 to Brand New Congress LLC on August 27, 2017, for strategic consulting, rather than correctly characterizing the underlying payment of $6,000 to Robert Riley.

When the allegations first surfaced, Ocasio-Cortez responded on Twitter, writing: “The conspiracy machine is in full effect & it’s been disappointing to watch professionals get duped + amplify unvetted Medium posts as truth, treating journalism like it’s a high school Livejournal rumor mill or something. No, I don’t shadily pay my boyfriend. Come on & VET.”

The conspiracy machine is in full effect & it’s been disappointing to watch professionals get duped + amplify unvetted Medium posts as truth, treating journalism like it’s a high school Livejournal rumor mill or something.

No, I don’t shadily pay my boyfriend. Come on & VET. https://t.co/EY28Elj6aG

— Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (@AOC)

Tyler Perry Says Stop Falling for Facebook Scams. He’s Not Giving Away Any Money

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If you are one of the numerous people who blindly share Facebook posts about celebrities or sends those chain Facebook Messenger posts without checking their veracity, this one’s for you.

Remember a few years ago when a rumor spread on Facebook that Tyler Perry was buying American Airlines? Remember how people kept spreading that rumor despite the fact there was no legacy media coverage of it? A quick Google search will show you how many outlets still have posts up about it even though it has long since been debunked.

When these things happen, it shines a bright spotlight on the lack of general media literacy. It also puts pressure on celebrities, sometimes forcing them to have to clear their name about a rumor they had nothing to do with.

Such is the case with Tyler Perry.

There is a new information phishing scam making its way around Facebook. It involves a lie that Tyler Perry is giving away $1 million, with some variations saying he is giving away cars, homes and more. Fake pages are being passed around that are requesting personal information from those gullible enough to believe that if Perry were giving away money—or anything else—he would be doing it through something as bootleg as a Facebook page.

Perry himself took to Instagram Tuesday to dispel this latest rumor.

“I am not giving away anything on Facebook,” Perry says in the video he posted to his personal Instagram account. “I am not giving away any money. My team has to shut down these things every day. There’s a new one popping up. Do not give your information to any of these people. Do not … give them anything. I don’t know who they are, but every day we have to get 10, 20, 30 of those things shut down on Facebook. I am not giving away anything. This is Tyler Perry. I’m not giving away anything. Please do me a favor: post this everywhere so people will know that it’s not true.”

“Listen, in my life, I’m a giver,” Perry continued. “I give a lot of things to a lot of people, to a lot of employees, random things—cars, houses—that I do. But that is not true, O.K.? The Facebook stuff? I’m not giving away anything. Stop it.”

So there you have it. Please stop spreading these stories.

And in the future? At least do a little digging before you circulate any others like it.